There are several milestones in a relationship that everyone seems to agree are a “big deal.” But they don’t have to be. Here’s why:
1. Being Exclusive
Oh, so you decided not to see other people while you figure out how you feel about one another? That’s not a huge commitment. It’s pretty basic. If you’re focused on each other and only each other, you can figure out if you’re meant to be much faster than if you’re juggling multiple dates. When you don’t have to worry, “Is she seeing other people, too?” you can relax and be your best self. Plus, you’re each more likely to open up both physically and emotionally. You might only be exclusive for a week, but focusing only on one person is an easy way to see if this is your person. Not dating, kissing, or having sex with other people while you figure it out is kind of the least you could do.
2. Sharing Streaming Passwords
This is really a matter of practicality. You want to watch Game of Thrones but she’s not caught up. If you give her your HBO Go password, she can catch up on her own time. Then, when you’re snuggled up on Sunday nights, you’re on the same page. If you break up, you can change your password in under thirty seconds.
3.Going to a Wedding
It might seem like watching two people pledge their eternal love for one another would put pressure on your relationship, but only if you let it. Think of it as a big party and a chance to get to know how your boo does on the dance floor, interacting with people of all ages, and if she turns in to a different person when there’s an open bar. It’s less of a scary commitment-inducing event and more of an opportunity to learn about your partner in an uncommon setting. Plus, you get to show off how good you look all dressed up.
4. Posting Photos on Social Media
This is our generation’s version of shouting your love from a mountaintop. Only, shouting your love from a mountaintop didn’t leave an embarrassing digital footprint in the event that you and your honey split up. Social media is a platform to tell your friends what’s going on in your life. And if your relationship is what’s going on, you shouldn’t hold back sharing that because you’re scared it’ll fizzle out. Plus, if you break up, you can just delete all your photos together, our generation’s cathartic version of returning all his CDs in a box.
5. Meeting the parents
Remember when we were teenagers and meeting the parents was just part of the deal? Somewhere between high school and legally buying liquor, meeting the parents became a big deal. But they’re just people. People with the secret code that explains why your boyfriend does that thing he always does or why your girlfriend thinks that way. Meeting the parents is like getting a backstage pass to your partner’s psyche. Yes, please!
Tell us about you’re “no big deal” relationship milestones in the comments!