So the hard part is over: you’ve finally had your first date. But even though you’ve jumped the first hurdle, now is one of the most crucial times for your relationship. This article isn’t going to give you a cookie cutter template to follow, but rather some words of advice and general tips for confidence as you follow these next steps.
Play it cool.
First of all, play it cool. Give your date some time to breathe a bit and take time to yourself as well. Think about how the date went and whether you think there’s chemistry before considering contacting them once again. Consider giving it at least a day to sit with you and think about how you’d like to move things forward.
The amount of time you should wait before calling or texting them again is variable depending on the person and how the date went. No matter what, don’t be afraid to make the next move. Often times, the other person will feel so relieved and excited if you’re the one to actually make that move. So why hold back and prevent that feeling?
Schedule a second date.
The best case scenario would be to reference something you both mentioned you wanted to do during the first date. If this is the case, odds are you both showed interest in hanging out in the future if any mention of doing it together was made. This is a great opportunity to make that first move and go for a second date. For example, you could text your date something casual like “Hey, I had such a great time the other night. I want to see you again! You still up for bowling?” Something casual, fun, but clearly interested.
If you didn’t talk about a specific activity, try to take advantage of something they talked about being interested in. There’s a fine line between showing you care and being creepy, so don’t cross it. If they mentioned they love hiking, ask them to show you their favorite local hike. Don’t plan an entire day hiking and insist that they must join. Find the happy medium in a way that you’ll get to know them better.
Don’t play games.
All in all, don’t play games. Don’t strategically time out when you text them based on rule of thumb. Each relationship is different, so feel it out and don’t mind breaking the rules. Be mature and stay confident about yourself and where things may head. But have realistic expectations.
We know all of this is much easier said than done. So share with us some of your best tips for actually following these guidelines! Happy dating.