The old saying, “trust your gut” maybe one of the life’s best lessons, especially when you’re suspicious your significant other is cheating on you. Dodging your calls and spending less time with you are some solid signs she has someone else in her life. But if you’re still not certain, here is some of the best indicators your lady is not being faithful.
Signs of Cheating
Remember, sometimes correlation does not equal causation, so if you’re suspect about your girlfriend cheating, keep track of how many of the below things she’s doing and then make a decision.
She doesn’t tell you where she’s going.
Relationships are fundamentally centered on mutual respect and trust. There is no reason your significant should be defensive about her whereabouts, unless, of course, she’s planning a surprise party for you. But if there’s no celebration in sight and she dodges the question of, “What were you up to?” she maybe hiding something from you.
She’s protective of her phone.
Again, relationships are based on mutual trust, which is why nobody should be going through and reading their girlfriend or boyfriend’s text messages. But if it comes to the point where you find yourself more curious about what is happening on her phone that’s a sign something is up. Another good indicator she could be cheating is how quickly snatches her phone when it rings or a text comes in or how she angles it away from you while she’s looking through it. That type of behavior is worth asking why she’s so protective over it, what she’s hiding and what she doesn’t want you to see.
She’s distant or disconnected.
If things have felt “off” for a while and conversations about improving it haven’t yielded any positive results, she might be talking to and seeking attention and companionship from someone other than you. Once you notice the emotional connection is not there, and she’s more excited about going out with other people more than you it’s time to question who she’s hanging out with.
She spends a lot of time hanging out with other guys.
As your girlfriend, you should be the number one man in her life. While it’s perfectly normal to want to maintain previously existing friendships, she should also want to share that with you. If she wants to spend time with other guy friends, ask her if you can tag along. After all, her friends should be your friends too. If she’s nervous about introducing you to her guy friends or apprehensive, that’s definitely a red flag.
She gets flirty.
While every girl has friends of the opposite sex, they should remain in that category without any blurred lines. That line has been crossed if she starts to spend more time with them in person, is flirtatious on the phone or online. Worse, if she shares inside, or inappropriate jokes with them. Even though she may claim it’s innocent or fun, that type of behavior is beyond being friendly, instead it suggests she is emotionally cheating on you.
When she accuses you of cheating.
If you have always been honest and she starts to get crazy and nitpicky about your whereabouts and friends, she might be freaking out because she thinks you’ll find out she’s cheating you. As a way to deal with her own guilt, she’ll be increasingly critical of you and become defensive. By putting the blame on you she takes the attention off of her and her insecurity, manipulating the focus.
Your girlfriend should be your number one supporter, who you can count on and be honest with. If there are signs of doubt or questions of unfaithfulness, it’s best to be direct and approach her about the situation. If she is cheating, it’s very likely she could lie. Often you’ll be able to tell if she’s stumbling around with her words and explanations. Ask specific questions about why you think she might be cheating and let her explain why. Don’t let her convince you to stick around if she’s being unfaithful, physically or emotionally – you deserve better!