Although you shouldn’t judge a book by its cover, we think it’s fair to say you can judge a guy based on his choice of location for a first date. First impressions mean a lot and where he takes you for the first time can say a lot about his intentions and character. So guys, pay attention. And gals, before you say yes, make sure you know what you’re getting into…
Dinner + Movie:
He’s not necessarily the creative type, but you typically can’t go wrong with a guy who wants to take you out on an old-fashioned date. Look out for his gentleman skills (or lack thereof) – AKA don’t let him order your meal, but feel free to let him grab the bill and DO make sure he opens the door for you (chivalry isn’t dead, people). However, be careful if he opts out of dinner and skips straight to the movie. A first date should be spent getting to know each other, which can be hard to do when you’re both staring at a screen for two hours. Suggest grabbing some coffee or dessert afterward so you can get in some good conversation. If he says no? Don’t schedule a second date, because he’s probably not looking for a deep connection.
He wants to impress you.
Concerts can provide a great atmosphere for a first date because of the live music, fun vibe and all around positive energy. If he takes you to a concert, he most likely chose a band that he knows you like, or one that he thinks you’ll like. People tend to naturally bond over similar tastes in music, so he’s trying to create that connection early. Don’t be too hard on him if the music isn’t quite your cup of tea – instead, focus on all the positives: for example, use the tunes as an excuse to get close and dance with your man.
He’s testing the waters.
Coffee dates are typically reserved for catching up with old friends or meeting colleagues to discuss work-related topics. So if your guy takes you to a coffee shop on the first date, he’s still trying to decide whether to take the next step or put you in the friend-zone. Don’t panic, though! After you dazzle him with your attentive conversation skills and witty banter, he won’t be able to resist asking you out on a proper first date.
Or at least he wants you to think he is… If he takes you to an art exhibit or museum, he’s likely hoping to impress you with his “sophistication and charm.” But just because he knows where the museum is, doesn’t necessarily mean he’s ever been inside of it. So unless you know your guy actually has an interest in post-impressionist art styles, be weary of these invitations because they could easily result in forced smiles and hidden resentment.
Although it may not seem like he’s trying, he is. He wants a girl who’s as chill as he is, so naturally his ideal date is throwing back a couple beers and shooting some pool with a pretty girl by his side. He knows his favorite bar is a guaranteed good time, so feel flattered that he wants to show you off at one of his favorite places. Just make sure neither of you has one too many drinks – this could potentially be the start of a new relationship and you’ll probably want to remember your first date.
A picnic on the first date is a bold move because there are virtually no distractions; it’s only you and him. This means he really wants to get to know you, which can be both exciting and nerve-wracking. It seems like he knows exactly what to say and the right moves to make. But don’t feel like you need to impress him; just be yourself! That’s how you scored this guy in the first place.
If he invited you out with another couple, he’s probably a little shy and wants to be in an environment where he knows he’ll feel comfortable. Pro? With two more people in the group, there’s sure to never be a lull in the conversation. Con? Sometimes those conversations might not include you. Make sure you don’t end up feeling like the fourth wheel. With these types of situations, it’s easy to fade into the background because they all already know each other. Step up and contribute to the conversation. He’ll give your props for getting along with his friends and realize he’d rather be spending some alone time with you.
Where did your guy take you for your first date? Let us know in the comments below!